Losing weight and keeping it off is one small battle in a much larger war. The biggest victory will be your ability to love yourself. To recognize that inside you is a starving child…a child that is creative, intuitive, needing love and begging for your awareness of his or her existence. The child within you is starving for “Your Love”. No one else’s love will do, and all you give him or her is FOOD! This child needs another kind of nourishment. Food will never sustain you, nor feed your real needs. Your challenge is to find out your inner child’s needs. So that you can bring true balance to your life.
You are not being selfish when you truly nourish yourself. You are thinking of self. Life’s most essential responsibility is thinking enough of yourself to take care of your whole being…your body, mind and spirit.
When you begin by loving yourself, you will discover a greater, more genuine capacity to love others. When you are emotionally starving, you are always ready for a fight. Loving and nourishing yourself brings you inner peace and balance.
Food is fuel for the body to physiologically exist. You can not use food to feed an emotional hunger and expect it to go away. I am a former fat person, who started dieting at the age of 12. None of the hundreds of diets I tried helped me with my emotional hunger. None of them taught me to love and nourish myself with things other than food. When you are emotionally hungry (eating for ANY OTHER REASON than physical body hunger), your MIND is looking for fuel…NOT your body. Feed your mind! If you are tired, rest; if you are bored, do something; if you are worried, go take a walk or read a book or watch a funny movie to de-stress by taking you mind off of the negative hyper-focus.
We all come into this world tiny, new and vulnerable. This tiny person has the right to live to his or her life’s potential. How tragic it is that so much of this potential is never realized, because of circumstances and environments over which we have no control. We can be impaired so early in life by neglect, harshness, or the expectations of grownups who are confused and unhappy themselves. Will you stop this in your life? You can if you want to! All you have to do is to become aware of that starving child in you. Then, feed this child “LOVE”. Remember, only YOUR LOVE WILL DO. Then, and only then, will the excess weight melt and STAY AWAY.